Don’t be afraid to see features of your parents in yourself

Don’t be afraid to see features of your parents in yourself

We often talk about the traits we “get” from our parents. “I get my eyes from my mom.” “I get my business sense from my dad.” It can be useful to categorize such traits according to the following three criteria: whether they came from our mothers or fathers; whether...
The art of apologizing

The art of apologizing

A well-delivered apology has the potential to heal wounds, restore trust and advance a relationship that might otherwise be stagnant or, worse, slipping away. Yet there may be some misconceptions about what it does and doesn’t mean to apologize, and we’re not always...
Embrace the work of intimate relationships

Embrace the work of intimate relationships

“Why are relationships so hard?” “Should it really require so much work, or is something wrong here?” After the falling in love phase has faded and our lover seems to morph from a dreamboat to a couch potato, we often are tormented by doubts and questions as these....
New habits begin with beating a new path

New habits begin with beating a new path

Imagine a field of tall grass, untouched, about knee high. To get from one side to the other, you start walking where no one has before and press down the blades of grass with each step, swiping your ankles through the brush between each stride. Walking through the...

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Psychological Fitness

“Psychological Fitness” is my monthly column featured in the Binghamton, NY Press & Sun Bulletin since 2004. This page highlights articles, or adaptations thereof, from that column.