When to hold on to your self vs. yield to others

When to hold on to your self vs. yield to others

You’re driving down the highway in the right lane and come upon a sign reading: “Left Lane Closed Ahead.” Do you slow down so drivers in the left lane can merge in front of you? Or do you speed up so nobody passes you? Your colleague is sure that the annual meeting...
Don’t get caught up wishing: “Wouldn’t it be great if . . . ?”

Don’t get caught up wishing: “Wouldn’t it be great if . . . ?”

How often do we say “Wouldn’t it be great if . . . ?” If only we could acquire, achieve and experience all the wonderful things in life. And if only we could get rid of, conquer and transcend all of our problems in life. “Oh, if I could lose this weight and arthritis...
Respecting differences in relationships

Respecting differences in relationships

One common source of tension and conflict in relationships, whether romantic, familial, platonic or professional, is the difficulty in managing the differences between the parties involved. “How could you possibly think that way?” “Why do feel you so upset? I would...
The pros and cons of routines

The pros and cons of routines

In a sense, doing something in a routine way means that we don’t have to think much about whether we want to or should do it. We just do it because it’s our established routine. Somewhere along the line, a decision was made to just do the thing so we don’t have to put...
Develop insight into how childhood wounds play out in relationships

Develop insight into how childhood wounds play out in relationships

Some say that in marriage, or longterm intimate relationships, couples have basically one fight; they just keep having it over and over again. The fight may take many forms, may hide behind different content areas and may play out in different arenas, but at the core...