Coping with the Coronavirus

Coping with the Coronavirus

Suffering results not so much from the bad things that have happened, are happening or might happen to us, but the way in which we regard those things, the meaning we give to them. Essentially, if we regard them as intolerable, unmanageable and unacceptable, we suffer...
Insight comes with a price, but is worth it

Insight comes with a price, but is worth it

What do you have stored in the back of your closet, the corner of the attic or the remote room in the basement? If you imagine venturing into these dark recesses, what do you begin to feel? Dread? Excitement? Both? Maybe you’ll find some gold coins given to you by a...
Overcome the fear of empathizing with others

Overcome the fear of empathizing with others

Of all the interpersonal skills we can imagine, empathy is surely one of the most important. Empathy may be more difficult for some than for others. Maybe some are constitutionally disadvantaged from the start in not being highly tuned-in to the emotional state of...
Process guilt without being tormented by it

Process guilt without being tormented by it

When I ask others what is their least favorite feeling to feel, guilt is one of the more common responses. For many, the feeling of guilt has a profound and negative impact on the quality of their lives. It is possible to better understand and manage guilt so that it...
Don’t play around the black hole of addiction

Don’t play around the black hole of addiction

The gravitational pull inside of a black hole is said to be so strong that beyond a certain point, known as the ‘event horizon,’ nothing, not even light, can escape from it. In some ways, addiction is like a black hole. At the top, the slippery slope is subtle, such...

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Psychological Fitness

“Psychological Fitness” is my monthly column featured in the Binghamton, NY Press & Sun Bulletin since 2004. This page highlights articles, or adaptations thereof, from that column.