Faith in others, and yourself, is a choice and it matters

Faith in others, and yourself, is a choice and it matters

When a quarterback throws a pass, he doesn’t throw it to the receiver, exactly. He throws it to where he expects the receiver will be in a few seconds. And when the receiver runs away from the quarterback hoping to complete the pass about to be thrown, he does not run...
Understanding the term ‘overreacting’

Understanding the term ‘overreacting’

“How can I talk to you when you get so upset and overreact like this?” “I know I’m too sensitive, I just can’t help the way I react when this stuff happens.” It’s not uncommon to hear people accusing others or themselves of being too sensitive, getting too upset or...
Why we resist changes we want to make

Why we resist changes we want to make

A husband complains that no one helps him with the yard work, but if they do, he says, “Never mind.” A mother dreams of resurrecting a social life outside of the house, to have a break from the kids, but if lunch invitations do come, she inevitably declines. A high...
Hold on to your self amidst the storm of blame

Hold on to your self amidst the storm of blame

In his poem entitled, “If,” Rudyard Kipling starts with advice regarding the familiar struggle to hold on to ourselves in the face of blame and doubt: If you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you; If you can trust yourself when...
Notice the present moment

Notice the present moment

A wife asks her husband, “So aren’t you going to say anything?” The husband panics; he silently races through the list: “Is it our anniversary? Did she get a haircut? New blouse? Paint the living room? What am I missing!?” Finally he surrenders and she tells him. “Oh,...